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Why humility is the most important quality to develop in yourself

Modern society pays too much attention to external achievements–how we look, where we work, what kind of life we lead. Most people are used to “keeping a face” in every situation, so even the smallest glimmers of humility seem like a breath of fresh air. Why is it so hard for us to display this beautiful quality? Maybe because it is associated with weakness, when in fact it is one of the signs of inner strength? Let’s try to find answers to these questions.
Why humility is good
When we meet someone who possesses this virtue, our shoulders relax, our heart beats a little quieter, and the invisible hand nervously squeezing our insides loosens its grip. Why? Because we understand that we are seen, heard, and accepted as we are, with all our flaws. Such an attitude is a very rare and valuable gift that breaks down even the strongest protective walls.

Truly humble and humble people can give this feeling because they accept their strengths and their weaknesses without judgment. According to scholars, this is the key sign of humility that feeds a sense of compassion.

In addition, such people view life as endless learning and understand that no one is perfect. This means that we can work on ourselves and be open to new ideas, advice, and criticism without compromising our self-esteem.

The clearest example of this quality is Mahatma Gandhi. His story is direct proof of what a leader endowed with humility can achieve and how useful such people are to society.

Psychologists Heidi Wement and Jack J. Bauer have written a book on the “quiet ego. This concept is very similar to what we call humility. The bottom line is that when we control our ego, we become much less aggressive, less likely to manipulate those around us, and less likely to lie. Instead, we take responsibility for our mistakes and correct them, listen to the ideas of those around us, and evaluate our abilities with common sense.

How to Develop Humility
Given everything we know about this quality, it’s not easy to develop. However, the effort is definitely worth it, if only for the inner freedom that will appear when we finally stop hiding the “uncomfortable” parts of ourselves, and come to terms with them. In other words, working on humility will help open the heart to understanding and empathy. Here are a few ways you can start.

Embrace your humanity.
When we fail at something very important to us, such as our personal life or career, our self-esteem sinks. This happens because our inner sense of worth is directly related to external events. We become “bad” and “undeserving” people in one second, and the road back to stable self-esteem can take a very long time.

People with developed humility are alien to this model of seeing the world. They generate their value from within. So when they fail miserably at something, they realize that it is only a failure, not proof of their worthlessness. After all, they are human beings, and it is human nature to make mistakes.

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